Anger is, in many ways, about taking inventory, taking responsibility, and taking back our power when it’s been misused or given away.When used as a navigational tool, it can take you into uncharted territories of possibility and peace. With consciousness, intention, and a greater awareness of what this radar is transmitting, you can transform what's stuck, transmute what's not for your highest good, and temper your tantrums so that you are no longer ruled by your powerful emotions but use them to rewire your life instead.
Recognize where you are hard that you need to become soft and where you are soft that you need to become hard. This is what anger is asking you. Anger is a response to a trigger, and it’s up to you to decide if you’re being guided to shift away from or towards something. Always, it’s both. But what direction are you being called in and in what way do you need to shift to truly accommodate your soul? If you are being taken advantage of, mistreated, unappreciated, or are in some way giving away your power- then anger is showing you where you need to step up and out of softness- where you need to take control. If you are being rigid and responsive to circumstances beyond your control and you are needing to open to a new perspective and a new way of doing things- then you are being asked to surrender to a higher way of softening and letting go of domination and attachment and you are being guided in where it would benefit you by not being quite so hard and held-fast to one way, to your way, and to open to a better way than perhaps you’ve known.
Anger is a fiery tool, but it can be transformative if you let it speak to you and really listen to what it has to say. At its onset, if you go inward rather than focusing and directing it outward, you can pluck out its lessons and bring consciousness to previously unbridled forces, allowing this emotion to propel you forward rather than keep you stuck.
Become the observer next time you feel the anger rising. Notice where you feel it in your body, how it affects your vibration, and just become aware of what is triggering you. Watching from the non-attached position gives you the leverage to create the possibility for positive change rather than being swept away and ruled by unconscious responses and tendencies.
Becoming the observer puts you in charge- which is always what anger asks for anyway. Be aware of the temptation (and anger is very seductive) to tantrum, to project, to blame. This is about you. Always. So the question is not what someone else has done or how you’ve been wronged, or even what the exterior situation is, so much as it is what did or didn’t I do and is it in integrity with who I truly am.
Anger is healthy when used as a barometer to know when you’ve been pushed beyond your limit, have given away too much of yourself, or need to maintain or set stronger boundaries. Anger is volatile and damaging when our only source of asserting power or getting our way. Ask yourself, ‘What is my anger showing me about who I am and who I choose to be?’
Ask “what needs of mine are neglected and need attending to and how do I delegate that those needs are met?’ When your needs are unmet or have gone unnoticed for too long, you will feel the fire of angers rise. When you take this warning light as a cue to take care of yourself and do what you need to do t come into balance, you will find your inner peace restored and you emotions swinging back to the other end of the pendulum or into complete balance.
Underneath all anger is sorrow. If you are not listening to your inner voice or minding your internal compass, you will find that your body and soul will create another way of getting your attention. The inner siren will become louder. Your discomfort level will heighten. And your muscles and thought process will tighten.
Slow down to stop and become connected with what it is you need to know. The more you resist, ignore, or suppress, the hotter the fire will burn. Create the space for the wisdom to be gained rather than stocking the flames through resentment or allowing the fire to smolder.
Anger remains until it is addressed. And storing it in your body because it is unwelcome or unacceptable simply elevates it into more blocked energy forms of depression, repression, and unaccountability.
Anger is about power. Not only is it a powerful force but it is a fire that is showing you where you are in your power and where you are not and ultimately what you need to do to burn through to the other side of the equilibrium.
So the next time you are feeling the passion of anger rearing its head, it is time to use it to your advantage and ask yourself some important questions. What can you do to become more empowered? How can you begin to pay better attention to your inner compass so that the temperature of emotions don’t need to rise so high in order to get your attention? In what areas of your life are you needing to assert yourself more directly? And, what beliefs, thoughts behaviors, and tendencies is it time to let go of?
You have within you the power, the peace, the wisdom, and the freedom to move into whatever direction you choose. Connecting deeper with what your spirit is directing you in will liberate you to see clearly where you are misdirecting your energy and where there is possibility for growth.
In order to become more integrated and whole, you will need to take stock of the messages your body, mind, and spirit are sending you. Anger is not necessarily the problem when you learn to harness it as the messenger it truly is and allow it to become the directive to the solution.
Breathe into your heart and soften at angers rise. Become inwardly reflective rather than allowing it to become outwardly directed. Anger is the force of Kali. It is destructive, but it is also creative. And if you anchor into stillness despite the temptation to explode, you can use this powerful energy force as a means of transforming and transmuting the old into the new rather than remaining a victim of circumstances with a chip on your shoulder whose needs continue to go unmet and whose pain remains unknown.
Understanding anger allows you to be less restrictive, more creative, and purposeful in directing your energy and making meaningful change.
Here are some mantras to help you shift:
I am at all times in my power.
I use my power to create positive and informed change.
My anger is showing me where I perceive myself to be giving away my power and teaching me where I need to grow.
When I become angry, I have neglected myself in some way and more than anything, I am needing to be acknowledged, loved, and heard.
I create space for compassion for self when I feel angry and go inward to find out whether I am needing to surrender or take control.
Anger is my radar’s way of letting me know that I am out of balance, whether it be that I need to speak up, slow down, change directions, or create clear boundaries.
I honor my anger and address it with the intention of gaining greater wisdom into the truth of who I am.
I see a gentler way with anger, never using it to hurt myself or another, but rather accepting it as an indicator of need for awareness of what I am unable or unwilling to see.
I navigate through anger in a mindful way, becoming detached, becoming the observer, and allowing it to guide me to a clearer perspective of my life, of myself, and of what I need to do to become free.
Today, I appreciate my anger for what it has taught me and choose to learn its lessons rather than create the need to repeat them.
I was away my anger by observing its message and moving away from the need to hold onto the emotion or become it.
I am not my anger, and anger is not bad in and of itself. It is only when I choose to allow it to be a habitual way of life and an unconscious way of responding that it becomes damaging and detrimental.
As I bridge the gap between anger and peace, I find that I no longer need anger to play such a dominant role in my life because I choose to listen closer to the clues alerting me to imbalance and discontent before they need escalate to a place of pain.
Harmony, joy, and peace are my birthright. And as I come into greater connection with and allow for the healing of my wounds and nurturing of my inner longings to take place, I am able to detach from resentment, blame, projection, and bitterness, and rise to a place of balance.
Anger need not be boxed or labeled as wrong or bad. When I release judgment of my emotions and of myself, I am able to reach a deeper space of clarity, insight, and healing of the cries from within.
Today, rather than responding in anger, I address the inner and outer triggers that inspire it and intend to transform habitual ways of reacting and transmute ways of feeling and being that deplete my peace.
I am a powerful being and anger need not be my vice or means of expressing my self or my needs.
I assert myself in a way that makes me feel empowered and creates a better version and vision of myself in so doing what is right for me and in responding consciously and responsibly to how I feel.
Experience today without anger, or at least the anger that moves you from center or distracts you from love. Notice where and when it’s a natural response, where it’s a triggered reaction, and do it new. Choose wonder. Choose curiosity. Choose to see it from an entirely new perspective.
Try to relax in your rigid-ness, in your Need for it to be one way or another, and ease into it. Choose fresh over frozen; compassion over coldness, and creation over pain. All pain is restriction, is blocked energy. And all energy flowing is creating.
When I allow anger to dictate my life rather than direct me, I create the energy for more painful lessons and for more energy of that sort to be directed back to me.
Anger is a mirror and a window. I choose to see into it rather than become submerged by it and instead of allowing it to become suppressed.
How I choose to navigate through my anger today dictates the way anger will continue to direct me in the future.
I choose growth over grumbling, peace over powerlessness, and conscious alignment with balance over discontent, disillusionment, and blame.
I allow anger to propel me into action that will create positive change rather than further disharmony.
Be the peace. Whatever your emotion, you have the power to merge with it and let it be your teacher. This is the way to move out of the pain-body and into the heart-based way of living you desire. Be the light and let the 'darkness' show you the way out of where you no longer need to go. Moving into a new way of being is always an available choice. Choose new now, and elevate your being.
To your inspired growth,
~Rhonda
Copyright © 2010 Rhonda Simpson~Conscious Co-Creating. Permission is granted to copy and redistribute this transmission on the condition that the content remains complete and in tact, full credit is given to the author, and that it is distributed freely.
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