Shifting Out of Anger

Anger is, in many ways, about taking inventory, taking responsibility, and taking back our power when it’s been misused or given away.When used as a navigational tool, it can take you into uncharted territories of possibility and peace. With consciousness, intention, and a greater awareness of what this radar is transmitting, you can transform what's stuck, transmute what's not for your highest good, and temper your tantrums so that you are no longer ruled by your powerful emotions but use them to rewire your life instead.

Recognize where you are hard that you need to become soft and where you are soft that you need to become hard.  This is what anger is asking you.  Anger is a response to a trigger, and it’s up to you to decide if you’re being guided to shift away from or towards something.  Always, it’s both. But what direction are you being called in and in what way do you need to shift to truly accommodate your soul?  If you are being taken advantage of, mistreated, unappreciated, or are in some way giving away your power- then anger is showing you where you need to step up and out of softness- where you need to take control.  If you are being rigid and responsive to circumstances beyond your control and you are needing to open to a new perspective and a new way of doing things- then you are being asked to surrender to a higher way of softening and letting go of domination and attachment and you are being guided in where it would benefit you by not being quite so hard and held-fast to one way, to your way, and to open to a better way than perhaps you’ve known.

Anger is a fiery tool, but it can be transformative if you let it speak to you and really listen to what it has to say.  At its onset, if you go inward rather than focusing and directing it outward, you can pluck out its lessons and bring consciousness to previously unbridled forces, allowing this emotion to propel you forward rather than keep you stuck.

Become the observer next time you feel the anger rising.  Notice where you feel it in your body, how it affects your vibration, and just become aware of what is triggering you. Watching from the non-attached position gives you the leverage to create the possibility for positive change rather than being swept away and ruled by unconscious responses and tendencies.

Becoming the observer puts you in charge- which is always what anger asks for anyway.  Be aware of the temptation (and anger is very seductive) to tantrum, to project, to blame.  This is about you.  Always.  So the question is not what someone else has done or how you’ve been wronged, or even what the exterior situation is, so much as it is what did or didn’t I do and is it in integrity with who I truly am.

Anger is healthy when used as a barometer to know when you’ve been pushed beyond your limit, have given away too much of yourself, or need to maintain or set stronger boundaries. Anger is volatile and damaging when our only source of asserting power or getting our way. Ask yourself, ‘What is my anger showing me about who I am and who I choose to be?’

Ask “what needs of mine are neglected and need attending to and how do I delegate that those needs are met?’   When your needs are unmet or have gone unnoticed for too long, you will feel the fire of angers rise.  When you take this warning light as a cue to take care of yourself and do what you need to do t come into balance, you will find your inner peace restored and you emotions swinging back to the other end of the pendulum or into complete balance.

Underneath all anger is sorrow.  If you are not listening to your inner voice or minding your internal compass, you will find that your body and soul will create another way of getting your attention.  The inner siren will become louder.  Your discomfort level will heighten.  And your muscles and thought process will tighten.

Slow down to stop and become connected with what it is you need to know.  The more you resist, ignore, or suppress, the hotter the fire will burn.  Create the space for the wisdom to be gained rather than stocking the flames through resentment or allowing the fire to smolder. 

Anger remains until it is addressed.  And storing it in your body because it is unwelcome or unacceptable simply elevates it into more blocked energy forms of depression, repression, and unaccountability.

Anger is about power.  Not only is it a powerful force but it is a fire that is showing you where you are in your power and where you are not and ultimately what you need to do to burn through to the other side of the equilibrium.

So the next time you are feeling the passion of anger rearing its head, it is time to use it to your advantage and ask yourself some important questions. What can you do to become more empowered?  How can you begin to pay better attention to your inner compass so that the temperature of emotions don’t need to rise so high in order to get your attention?  In what areas of your life are you needing to assert yourself more directly?  And, what beliefs, thoughts behaviors, and tendencies is it time to let go of?

You have within you the power, the peace, the wisdom, and the freedom to move into whatever direction you choose.  Connecting deeper with what your spirit is directing you in will liberate you to see clearly where you are misdirecting your energy and where there is possibility for growth.

In order to become more integrated and whole, you will need to take stock of the messages your body, mind, and spirit are sending you.  Anger is not necessarily the problem when you learn to harness it as the messenger it truly is and allow it to become the directive to the solution.

Breathe into your heart and soften at angers rise.  Become inwardly reflective rather than allowing it to become outwardly directed.  Anger is the force of Kali. It is destructive, but it is also creative. And if you anchor into stillness despite the temptation to explode, you can use this powerful energy force as a means of transforming and transmuting the old into the new rather than remaining a victim of circumstances with a chip on your shoulder whose needs continue to go unmet and whose pain remains unknown.

Understanding anger allows you to be less restrictive, more creative, and purposeful in directing your energy and making meaningful change.

Here are some mantras to help you shift:

I am at all times in my power.

I use my power to create positive and informed change.

My anger is showing me where I perceive myself to be giving away my power and teaching me where I need to grow.

When I become angry, I have neglected myself in some way and more than anything, I am needing to be acknowledged, loved, and heard.

I create space for compassion for self when I feel angry and go inward to find out whether I am needing to surrender or take control.

Anger is my radar’s way of letting me know that I am out of balance, whether it be that I need to speak up, slow down, change directions, or create clear boundaries.

I honor my anger and address it with the intention of gaining greater wisdom into the truth of who I am.

I see a gentler way with anger, never using it to hurt myself or another, but rather accepting it as an indicator of need for awareness of what I am unable or unwilling to see.

I navigate through anger in a mindful way, becoming detached, becoming the observer, and allowing it to guide me to a clearer perspective of my life, of myself, and of what I need to do to become free.

Today, I appreciate my anger for what it has taught me and choose to learn its lessons rather than create the need to repeat them.

I was away my anger by observing its message and moving away from the need to hold onto the emotion or become it.

I am not my anger, and anger is not bad in and of itself.  It is only when I choose to allow it to be a habitual way of life and an unconscious way of responding that it becomes damaging and detrimental.

As I bridge the gap between anger and peace, I find that I no longer need anger to play such a dominant role in my life because I choose to listen closer to the clues alerting me to imbalance and discontent before they need escalate to a place of pain.

Harmony, joy, and peace are my birthright.  And as I come into greater connection with and allow for the healing of my wounds and nurturing of my inner longings to take place, I am able to detach from resentment, blame, projection, and bitterness, and rise to a place of balance.

Anger need not be boxed or labeled as wrong or bad.  When I release judgment of my emotions and of myself, I am able to reach a deeper space of clarity, insight, and healing of the cries from within.

Today, rather than responding in anger, I address the inner and outer triggers that inspire it and intend to transform habitual ways of reacting and transmute ways of feeling and being that deplete my peace.

I am a powerful being and anger need not be my vice or means of expressing my self or my needs.

I assert myself in a way that makes me feel empowered and creates a better version and vision of myself in so doing what is right for me and in responding consciously and responsibly to how I feel.

Experience today without anger, or at least the anger that moves you from center or distracts you from love.  Notice where and when it’s a natural response, where it’s a triggered reaction, and do it new.  Choose wonder.  Choose curiosity.  Choose to see it from an entirely new perspective.

Try to relax in your rigid-ness, in your Need for it to be one way or another, and ease into it.  Choose fresh over frozen; compassion over coldness, and creation over pain.  All pain is restriction, is blocked energy.  And all energy flowing is creating.

When I allow anger to dictate my life rather than direct me, I create the energy for more painful lessons and for more energy of that sort to be directed back to me.

Anger is a mirror and a window.  I choose to see into it rather than become submerged by it and instead of allowing it to become suppressed.

How I choose to navigate through my anger today dictates the way anger will continue to direct me in the future.

I choose growth over grumbling, peace over powerlessness, and conscious alignment with balance over discontent, disillusionment, and blame.

I allow anger to propel me into action that will create positive change rather than further disharmony.

Be the peace. Whatever your emotion, you have the power to merge with it and let it be your teacher.  This is the way to move out of the pain-body and into the heart-based way of living you desire. Be the light and let the 'darkness' show you the way out of where you no longer need to go. Moving into a new way of being is always an available choice. Choose new now, and elevate your being.

To your inspired growth,

~Rhonda

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Copyright © 2010 Rhonda Simpson~Conscious Co-Creating. Permission is granted to copy and redistribute this transmission on the condition that the content remains complete and in tact, full credit is given to the author, and that it is distributed freely.   

You Are the Weaver of Your Web

You are the weaver of your web.  Where are you going to hang it? How solid of a foundation will it be forged on?  What will the design of your web be?  Will it be intricate, delicate, complicated?  Will it be tangled?  Will it be symmetrical? Will it be weak?

The themes for this time have to do with the throat chakra and expression; Receiving; Responsibility, for what you’ve created and who you are; focus and intent- you are the master of your web and your world. What are you creating; and establishing new foundations.

This is a time for (re)discovery of You. Who are you, at a core, conscious level? What do you really want?  What are you really craving in your life? What matters to you most?  Where are you independent?  Where are you strong?

Notice what comes up (trigger and drama wise) that no longer has a charge.  Notice what no longer pulls you in.  Just because it comes into your thought field doesn’t mean it has to pull you in or pull you under.  Notice if it does.

Placement is helping you adjust to no time which is now time.  It’s helping you adjust by showing you where you are flexible and where you thought you couldn’t bend. Time, energy, reverence- everything is flexible.  It’s you that has been rigid, has been restricted.

And so, this is a time to soften.  A time to reflect.  A time to look inside, look deeper, and see, as if for the first time, or perhaps just with a very different perspective, who you are for real, and the faculties that are keeping you from where you want to be.

Many are feeling very drained by the experiences and energy that are incompatible with their truth. Many are finding that they are sponges for the energy of fear that is so prevalent all around. How do you know when your energy is being siphoned? You will have the experience of feeling drained.  You will feel depressed, exhausted, uneven.  You will feel a shift, and not in a good way.

Use these opportunities as a jumping point to become a master of energy. A master of energy does not bend to the energy of the environment, of the company, of the situation. A master of energy is able to maintain their vibration, and their integrity, despite the encounter with something denser. A master of energy does not become victim to their circumstances, but remains even. Remains solid.  Remains intact.  Remains in-tune, yet unaltered by the outer, surpassing the dip in vibration, and therefore the need to retaliate or recharge continually from otherwise draining situations.

When you find yourself dipping in vibration because of what someone has said or because you have taken on the energy of someone you’ve been around, question whether or not that is so. By questioning that simple fact, ‘Have I taken on the energy of another?’, you will find an instant lightening, and instant lift- simply by bringing this truth to awareness, simply by bringing it to the light.

Often, when we take on the energy of another, we are unaware that we’ve done so, and we internalize the emotions or the thoughts of those we’ve engaged with. We become confused and swept away by the emotions and thought forms, especially if they resonate with thoughts or emotions that have been ours. It can be difficult to differentiate what is ours and what is theirs. And so it becomes evident, how necessary it is to establish clear boundaries, especially energetically, as we climb the ladder of vibration. As we climb, we become more and more sensitive.  As the veil thins, and our senses sharpen, as we become more light-bodied, we operate from that level- from the level of transparency, telepathy, clairvoyance, and higher levels of empathy. This is the higher way of being, but we must integrate the safe-guards or the know-hows in order to operate from this place more efficiently.

Though the tendency is to want to hybernate or restrict contact with the outside world in order to bypass these commonly unpleasant experiences, the need to know how to operate, how to be unrestricted and free within the world and not running from it, is a part of our growth and learning. We have gone beyond the marker of being in this world but not of it and are entering a time of mastership, where being of it and in it and beyond it simultaneously are not only possible, but preferable, because we have embarked on the road of no restrictions and are leaving the land of victim-hood and hiding.

Part of being able to be in the world is being able to stand firm and solid in who you are (integrity) despite anothers conviction. If this is not a strong point for you, you are going to be tested in it. You are going to be prompted and challenged to stand your ground and be unwavering, because this is the foundation for living from your soul-truth, and this foundation, in order for you to shine your brightest shine, need be solid and sufficient. 

Your battle within thus far, between your growing truth and your ego’s opposition, has been about safety.  Your ego-mind fears the ventures of the new, the pitfalls of transition, and the betrayal of the other whom you’ve placed your value and your faith in. Your soul longs for independence from the validation of others, expression of inspired experiences, and culmination of faith that It can take you where you need to go. The war will continue to wage until you are able to provide a foundation on which your ego can rest and your soul can fly.

You have everything within you now to achieve this. This is a time of fishing through the utensil drawer of your tools and finding what will support you in this endeavor. What will it take to become strong in the face of anothers opinion, in the presence of another discordant energy? In the moment of truth, which is every moment, what are you going to bring to the table?  You may find that you’ve been drawing from the dull tools, the ones you’ve used before, perhaps time and again, and you are seeing more clearly how they haven’t served you.  You are seeing more clearly because it matters to you now, in a way that perhaps it never did before. And as you bring in the consciousness that proceeds the clarity, you no longer have the capacity to function at that level, at that level of just getting by, of barely making the ends of your life meet, and of spending half of your time picking yourself up off the floor rather than most of your time climbing higher.

So take inventory of your strengths. It’s harder to fool yourself now.  And this is to your advantage. The further you engage with your truth, the easier it becomes to see who you really are, and in these upcoming challenges, it will become increasingly easier to see when you have taken on the energy of another, and knowing this helps you to remain more in alignment with your truth.

Gather from your experiences the lessons rather than the pitfalls or disappointments and use these too in your arsenal of truth. Who you ARE is a direct reflection of who you have always been (at the core and deepest leve). So much time is lost in reflection of who we are not and who we may never be. You are a soul.  You have had millions of experiences.  You have lived many lifetimes.  You have been without body, in spirit, and thus you have traveled to other worlds. How could you Not know beyond, far beyond, what you have limited yourself to knowing? How could you not have come into mastery in all of these fields which you desire to encompass in this now? You limit yourself because it has been the norm of your culture, it has been the safely valve of society. You have placed your faith and banked your worth on what someone else has told you you should be. Isn’t it time to reach beyond that now, into the wisdom of within and bathe in the light of your vibrant being? How much longer can you remain in the tight-fitting suit of the ‘should’ ?

You know the answer to that question by the restriction you feel in your throat when you hold back from expression.  You know it when you feel the rumble in your belly when you give away your power to something or someone you don’t even believe, out of habit or out of doubt in your self. You know the answer all to well, and the question becomes not how long will it continue, but when and what will it take.  What will it take to break free of what’s held you down?  What will it take to follow your heart, every time, and take the chance on you, no matter the consequences? What will it take to BE in your fullest capacity, at last, without worry, without wondering anymore, without restriction?

And the answers to these question are what this time and these challenges are all about. This is a time to question- everything, everyone, especially yourself. Question why you buy in, what you want from your experiences, where you place your trust, and what you most deeply and truly desire. This is a time to overturn, uncover, and intercede on what has been just for the sake of always being that.  This is a time of revealing. Let the mysteries unfold, the tangles of deception be unraveled, and the constriction be soothed. This is your Now, baby!- Go on and live it!

Engage with awareness and create with the vibrancy of truth!

To loving life fully and expressing with ease,

~Rhonda

Awakeningthedivine.net

Copyright © 2010 Rhonda Simpson~Conscious Co-Creating. Permission is granted to copy and redistribute this transmission on the condition that the content remains complete and in tact, full credit is given to the author, and that it is distributed freely.